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September 2007 
What fear would you like to abandon forever?
Posted on Aug 13th, 2007
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Galynne
Galynne
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for August 13, 2007:
Ouch! Today's QaR is screaming for me to respond. It's not easy for me to share my fears with people, but here goes:
If I had one fear I could abandon forever, it would be the fear of calling friends, family, loved ones that I have been out of contact with. I don't know why, but when I fall out of touch with someone I love or care about, I have a hard time getting back in touch. This one is deep seeded and I've struggled with it ALL of my life (since I was a pre-teen).
To be honest, I am not sure what the REAL fear is that is attached to this one. Fear of rejection? Fear of dealing with someone being disappointed? Fear of not living up to what I or others "think" I should be doing? I sincerely don't know the basis of this fear, but I'd like to face it, deal wth it, and get over it. There may be a part two to this question in a couple of days.
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if they really love you, they might be hurt that you haven't called,
but they will be HAPPY & forgiving when you do.
maybe the real lesson here is for you is to call people that you REALLY
care about more often.
Thank you for that. What’s your number? ;o)
It’s been a lot of years of anxious, unneccessary internal turmoil. The one thing I’m hardest on myself about.
Sending you happy thoughts!!
:)
I have friends afraid to call me after a year or so, I am just glad they reconnected! I'd hate to think they stayed away out of fear…but I also know how judgmental people can be…L/B isright, pick the ones that you really care about and screw the rest..let them call you!
:)
You can also consider that those loved ones also have fear of contacting you after an absence. Sometimes it is a real act of kindness to break that ice and be the first to call. Chances are they are feeling guilty for not already having called.
I think within me, this is in the arena of fear of intimacy. Yeah, that goes back to fear of rejection. But there is some need to face my pain of lost intimacy. This gets in the way of reconnecting.
Many joyful, tearful telephone calls to you.
Thank you for taking the time to share your words of wisdom!
I am inspired by all of your responses! I’ve started a list of friends and loved ones I will be calling this week. I’ll let you all know how it goes.